Perspective
December 6th, 2008 @ 1:26 pm |
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After telling my sister she was stupid, I went to the movies with my other sister, Bim, and her mother-in-law. On the way, we talked about what I said and sibling relationships. Joan told us stories about how she used tears to manipulate her sons to make up after a fight because life is too short to be mad at your sibling. Her mother and brother died in separate car accidents and that changed her perspective.
Bim and I were supposed to meet this morning to drive to a wedding in western Pennsylvania. Because bad weather was forecast, she was supposed to call me before 7 a.m. to let me know if the trip was still on. Her in-laws and husband were afraid the roads would be too bad. She didn’t call and I tried calling her for more than an hour. My paranoid mind leaped to a problem with her pregnancy, but as I was about to give up, she answered - our plans were still on. As Shazaam’s boyfriend and I were about to merge onto the Turnpike, Bim called sobbing.
Her brother-in-law was killed in a car accident early this morning in Pittsburgh. Details about the accident are still sketchy, but someone is in custody in connection with the crash.
I didn’t know Adam that well. I first met him before Bim started dating his brother, at my soon-to-be ex-brother-in-law’s 21st birthday party. I thought he was soooo cute. There was the time we went snowmobiling at their family’s mountain house. And of course the wedding, in which he was the best man. His toast was a hit, but his self-consciousness made him seek out reassurance that it was good. (And then when he helped my cousin push her car from the mud, I’m pretty sure they hooked up in the back seat.) And just last weekend, I sat beside him when we saw Four Christmases.
Adam was the miracle child. He’s six years younger than my BIL and they were all fiercely protective of him.
Please keep my sister’s family in your thoughts and prayers. And tell your siblings how much you love them.
December 8th, 2008 @ 2:37 am
I’m so sorry to hear that, Pom. Will do on the prayer request.
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December 23rd, 2008 @ 10:04 pm
Wow. I’m late reading this but it’s a good reminder to be thankful for every day. I will pray for this family, especially through the holidays.
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